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STOPP

Learn this one key skill !
"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our freedom to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom". Viktor Frankl.
STOP !  
Just pause for a moment

TAKE A BREATH  
Notice your breathing as you breathe in and out.

OBSERVE
  • What thoughts are going through your mind right now? 
  • Where is your focus of attention? 
  • What are you reacting to? 
  • What sensations do you notice in your body?

PULL BACK - PUT IN SOME PERSPECTIVE
  • What's the bigger picture? 
  • Take the helicopter view. 
  • What is another way of looking at this situation? 
  • What advice would I give a friend? 
  • What would a trusted friend say to me right now? 
  • Is this thought a fact or opinion? 
  • What is a more reasonable explanation? 
  • How important is this?  How important will it be in 6 months time? 
  • It will pass.

PRACTICE WHAT WORKS - PROCEED
  • What is the best thing to do right now? 
  • Best for me, for others, for the situation? 
  • What can I do that fits with my values? 
  • Do what will be effective and appropriate. 
https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/stopp.htm